Let’s talk about why you are not having any success in
finding anybody much less the ‘right’ person to date.
The basics: Step one –
Change your hair style. Yes, men are attracted to different hairstyles and if
you have not had success while sporting a specific hair style then think about
changing. Growing it, shortening it, changing the color or the style in
general.
And, if what you are saying right now is, I like my hair and
I’m keeping it that way, then step number five is really for you.
Step two – Work on your body. Yes, I said it. Your body
image is hurting your self-esteem and therefore who you are attracting. I don’t
care if you are thin, fat, average. I don’t care if you are big boned, thin
boned or have no bones at all, do something to change it. And if you say, I
think I look pretty darn good then read step five.
Step three – Change your make-up. Your tan, your non-tan.
Change the colors you are wearing on your face. Have you ever looked at someone
and asked yourself, what was that person thinking of when they did their make-up?
Well, maybe someone is saying that about you. PAY for a real make-over, let a
professional do your make-up and then learn how they did it!
Step four – change what you are wearing. Yes, change that
look. Change who you are by what people see you wearing. Have you heard the
term, dress for success? Well, how you dress will certainly attract a certain
type of person and will most efficiently scare others away. Maybe what you are
wearing is not drawing the right people to you.
And Step five – change who you are. I don’t care if you are
happy with who you are if part of your happiness involves finding the right
partner then, like everyone else you have met, become the person you want to
date. What’s crazy is most people say, I can’t change. Yes you can. I am the
living result of many many changes and so are you. Do you like the exact same
things you liked as a child? Same foods? Same games? Same friends? Do you like
doing all those things you did as a kid? And I bet you actually had to think
about what you used to do because your growth has come so gradually that you
didn’t even know you changed except on those rare occasions when you suddenly found
yourself eating something you hated as a kid or couldn’t eat the things you
loved as a kid.
The same is true of who you are. You have changed hundreds
of times over the years and I challenge you now to change again, only this
time, make it a deliberate change. Change happens in at least one of three ways
and typically in two or three ways; by the things we watch or listen to; by the
things we read; by the people we hang around with. Change your friends and
change your life. Change and read some great books, articles, emails, blogs and
change your life. And change who and what you are listening to, podcasts,
music, TV, seminars and workshops.
When you become a new person with deliberate action you can
become the person you want to attract into your life.
I know what you are thinking…but I am great just as I am.
If that is the case, you will be happy simply being right where you are but if
you want to attract that person, then you have to become the type of person you
are seeking. Change, grow, become and do it by choosing who you want to be.
I am Steve Sapato and I am the creator of the ‘Learn To Win’
workshops and seminars that change peoples lives. Write to me and let’s get you
on the road to your own happiness.
The Happiness Agenda podcast is a good place to start. On
iTunes or my website www.stevesapato.com/podcast
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